The Art of Framing

Framing is a way how we want to perceive the world – I say “want to” because framing plays with cognitive bias effects like confirmation bias and perceiving situations as a gain or loss, regardless of what they actually are. To Complex? So here is an example: A normal D/s couple goes Read more…

Dominant Exchange

Dominants don’t talk… much! But we should! This is especially true if it is about discussing mistakes or problematic situations. We have thousands of websites that talk about what and how you can do stuff but only very few are actually about common mistakes and how to resolve them. One Read more…

What is a Metamorph?

You ever know a Dominant or Submissive that could just play with everybody? If so, you probably know what I call a Metamorph… I borrowed that name from a Star Trek Episode (TNG, Episode 5×21 – yes you can learn about the “perfect” Submissive in Star Trek) to describe a Read more…

Saying Thanks

I personally am very thankful today and in the past months for a lot of people around me. I think we all should try to be thankful for what we have and these are not empty words so let me explain a bit in detail. As the follower of this Read more…

How to celebrate special days

We all know the Special days that come along once in a while. For me, the most important dates are Birthdays, relationship anniversary, Christmas and special one time occasions. However, I don’t like to celebrate birthdays for myself. This year, for instance, I didn’t feel up to enjoy my birthday Read more…

How to rebuild trust

We all make mistakes – that’s a fact! Sometimes our mistakes are much harder than others to rectify or to forgive… be it that we lied to our partner or let them down in ways they expected us to stand up for them… When Trust is broken there is a Read more…

Why Connect to the BDSM Community?

Should everybody connect to the BDSM Community? Does it depend on anything? [alert type=”info” icon-size=”big”]Please read the whole article, I describe some of my negative experiences first because of the chronological order. Also because every community is different I try to show a lot of the experiences I made over Read more…

Growth as a Dominant

Growth as a Dominant is an important topic but also very neglected. When I was asked by a chat-friend about it my first reaction wasn’t very positive because usually, people think Dominants don’t need to grow anymore, after all they are the Experienced ones, right? I do understand where it comes Read more…